Decorating Reason


“Human beings sometimes find a kind of pleasure in nursing painful emotions, in blaming themselves without reason or even against reason.” ~Isaac Asimov

Warpgender cisspecies. Cisgender warpspecies. Latentgender crackpipespecies. Absentgender fungalspecies. Such mindless philosophies.

The word cisgender makes sense to me, with its meaning of “you are what you are”, but the alternatives people want to decorate on the sidelines of the definitive concept are ridiculous. In other words: it’s fine to be the gender you were born. It’s even fine and outright dandy to put yourself in the figurative shoes of the opposite gender. It’s benevolent to try to understand the opposite gender. You can do a world of good by understanding them. That goes both ways. Men try to understand women, and women try to understand men.

You can do no good by pretending you’re a woman in a man’s body, or a man in a woman’s body.

If you’re having trouble with your hormones, that can be fixed. Hormone supplements have been available for a long time. A chemical balance can be repaired.

Some people just want to experiment. Experimentation is fine too, within reason.

Is it reasonable to medically change a gender if the person who wants the change is only wanting the change because outsiders tell him or her that he or she looks like the opposite gender? That’s some extreme peer pressure! But not a reasonable excuse for altering a life.

Biological alteration would be the wrong direction, psychologically speaking. For a person to repair the damage done by negative peer comments, they would progress faster by accepting themselves and dismissing the negative comments. To go forward with a medical alteration would be the equivalent of accepting the negative comments and dismissing the self!

This is of course a simplified situation I’m using as an example. Are there more complicated situations? Of course. Could the more complicated situations be broken down into smaller more manageable parts? Most likely. A person in the middle of the confusion would do best by breaking their problem into smaller, easier bits. They would also do better by seeking professional advice and not public opinion. (Public opinion such as this written piece? Yes.)

Psychology and psychiatry are unfortunately underrated. In this era of the circus of opinions, there’s an increased need for psychology and psychiatry. The former is overlooked and the latter is unappreciated.

The great thing is that with all the confused ideas out in the world, in the clamor, in the clown car of emotions, in the balancing act bereft of reason, there’s no shortage of material for fiction writing!

Published by Kurt Gailey

This is where I'm supposed to brag about how I've written seven novels, twelve screenplays, thousands of short stories, four self-help books, and one children's early-reader, but I'd rather stay humble. You can find out about things I've written or follow my barchive (web archive, aka 'blog) at or follow me on twitter @kurt_gailey. I love sports and music and books, so if you're an athlete or in a band or you're a writer, give me a follow and I'll most likely follow you back. I've even been known to promote other people's projects.

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